Creating a Life to Love. 7 Decisions That Make It Possible.

About twenty years ago, when I was totally overwhelmed with life and equally underwhelmed with myself,  a dear friend gave me “The Seven Decisions”. They were instrumental, she said, in turning her own life around. Her method of incorporating them into her life, worked for me as well.  She assured me, that even in my overwhelmed state, that they could be incorporated easily into my daily life.

Here are the super simple intstructions:  Read only one each day, before leaving the house.  Use them as a focus and filter for your thoughts and actions that day.  At the end of the week, start again. Continue the rotation forever, if you want to.

For me, the first thing I noticed was the shift in my thinking, then that new way of thinking began to show up in my actions. So, here I am all these years later, still using them daily.

When something really does work, for me, paying it forward is one of my greatest pleasures.  So, a happy graphic of “The Seven Decisions” was created just for you, to use with the hope that whatever your path may be….that it is enhanced with these guidelines for living a wonderful life.

Illuminating each one, just a bit, also helps incorporate them into consciousness.  That said, here’s DECISION #1:

The buck stops with me.  I am responsible for my past and my future. 

We all have brilliant and gnarly parts of the past to deal with.  Those gnarly ones get a lot of blame for why we are not where we want to be now.  But absolutely everything is all about learning to find the “so what’s” for ourselves. Connecting the dots.  Informing our choices. Moving forward. Being determined.

What I’ve learned about crafting a new future is the more we understand about ourselves, especially the more we know and focus on our most natural strengths, the more the true path opens up.  Only WE know what gets our deepest “yes”.  When we know our strengths, we will get to those “yes’s” much more quickly.

For example, there are days when I just want someone ELSE to “do my life” for me, to handle the teetering TO DO pile, and figure out Facebook’s peculiarities. I don’t want to get up, grow up, or gut it up. Boo hiss.

Since learning that one of my strengths is being strategic, taking every scenario into consideration, to develop a workable plan…I am even much more accepting of other aspects of myself when developing an overall time frame for completing projects.

It may sound foolish but I have learned to strategically put “bathrobe days” on the calendar. I need the break from everything in order to stay creative and refreshed. I know now, that  I only have so much juice for the future, in my present.  If I push to the point of burn-out,  the dream will die before it ever really gets out of the starting gate.  Now, those days are an integral part of every plan.

Becoming responsible for knowing myself and understanding my natural wiring has given me a better road map, one with fewer blind alleys for creating a future that uniquely and authentically fits the me of me.

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